Balanced and unbalanced love.

There's nothing I like better than cultivating a loving relationship. By giving love. That's far more important than receiving love. And more satisfying, too. Seems to me that in a loving relationship, there's no such thing as a constant balance of love. Because love can't be weighed. It's weightless. And those who try to weigh or measure love, really aren't in love. Love is love is love. One knows it. But one can't define it. A little bit like knowing god. Without the necessity to define god. I suppose god is love. And love is god. To be a true blue lover, it's necessary for me to give love. Without having to be loved. Because real love is unconditional. I'm assuming that in loving relationhips, one partner gives more than the other at any given time. And the degree of love may be in a constant state of flux. But that really doesn't matter in a truly loving relationship. Because lovers try to meet each other's needs. And those needs may vary from moment to moment, day to day, week to week, month to month, year to year. My Jeanne needed more than the usual amount of love when she had a 13-year siege with Alzheimer's Disease. And I had to be prepared to give more love than I received. But at earlier times in our marriage/loving relationship, Jeanne gave more love than she received. Seems to me that things tend to balance out in a truly loving relationship. --Jim Broede