The happy state of loving.

Vittorio is grieving. Rather than loving. Which means, he isn't taking very good care of himself. Grievers usually don't. Lovers do. Vittorio has lost 30 pounds. Lamenting. Since the death of Claudia, his wife and true love. At least she was. While still alive. Vittorio has to become a full-fledged lover again. It should be a continuing love. Of dear Claudia. Death should not be cause to stop loving one's beloved. Unconditionally. Love should be forever. Even if Vittorio some day goes on to a second true love.  There still should be a love connection to the first love. To Claudia. Vittorio should ask himself. What would Claudia want him to do? With the rest of his life. I suspect it's to be a lover. Forever. To love life. To take good care of himself. And to pick up the love vibes. From Claudia's vibrant love spirit.  As a lover, she wants Vittorio to thrive. By staying in love.   And he won't do that by staying in the painful state of grieving.  Better to be in the happy/pleasant state of loving. --Jim Broede