Saying 'no' can be a solution.

I have two friends. Trying to exceed their capabilities. By doing too much. For instance, one of 'em tries to grossly exceed her care-giving limits. And thereby works to exhaustion.  Mentally and physically. She never learned to pace herself. Or to get assistance. Another friend doesn't know how to say 'no.' And therefore ends up doing stuff she'd rather not do. Indeed, this is perplexing. All she needs do is say 'no.' --Jim Broede