Tuesday, August 14, 2007
We're open to unscreened comments again.
I've opened the broodings blog to unscreened comments again. On reflection, I decided it would be a mistake to stifle discussion and comments. Everything is acceptable. Good and bad. Positive and negative. Praise and criticism. But I'd wish that everyone would try to be reasonably polite and courteous. Even in disagreement. --Jim Broede
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Jim, Although I disagree with about 75% of what you say I wanted to acknowledge that lately you have been very supportive to people on the board. I doubt you care what I think but I wanted to tell you I appreciate the change.
What does it matter if he is supportive in the public Alzheimer's forum and calls them whiners here?
I disagree with 99.9% of what he says but watching the way he "edits" his little blog is amusing.
People gawk at a car wreck. People look in here to see what the little king is doing with his imaginary kingdom.
As I said, it is amusing for a bit but now it is just a big yawn.
P.S. The only two people who really voice support (100% of the time here and on the forum) are Rosie and Sherie. Jim could say the moon is made of cheese and they would echo their total agreement. That's pretty funny too.
One old man with a big red nose and two back up singers. It was really funny when Rosie pretended to be "Bunny" and ripped into a little old lady. She called her a "bitch". Then she signed her real name. Sure she tried to cover it up with some lame excuse. LOL The Broede girls singing "yeah, yeah, yeah." I laughed till I peed my pants.
Any fool would know that I am too egotistical to sing back up. My mama taught me to disagree with my friends in private. Since I’m am tone deaf and can’t follow a tune, the thought of my singing back up was even more laughable.
If the poster was intelligent enough to figure out how to sign their name, the comment would have carried more impact.
Makes me wonder if people really have the courage of their convictions when they don't even use their names. --Jim Broede
I appreciate your comment, Lori. I really am trying to be a nice guy. And I do care what you think. You've made me feel good. And I hope I can do the same for you. --Jim Broede
Yes, dear anonymous, I have called some care-givers whiners. But I had the good sense and decency to do it here in broede's broodings, rather than on the Alzheimer's care-giver message board. I established this blog so that I could speak more freely and honestly. Sometimes, the truth hurts. But in the long haul, I think that facing up to the truth is good. Good for the individual. Good for the soul. As you probably know, I'm not a conformist. And by golly, I tend to speak my mind. Have you noticed that? I think it's an attribute. --Jim Broede
Dear Jim,
I have been reading you "blog". as you knew I would, and would also like to echo Lori's thanks for keeping the Alzheimer's message board free from these types of discussions. If setting your "blog" up has achieved this and stopped the discourse there, then this is a good thing.
I still don't think you should be slamming into people here in the same way, but I suppose as this is YOUR "blog" you can do as you please............sigh.
Happy Blogging Jim, not sure I will be visiting again......finding this all a bit boring really........sad. Same old thing.
To each his/her own, Patricia. I don't expect everyone to be enraptured by this blog site. But it's a nice option for some. Even those who don't like it may come back again. Just out of curiosity. It's a natural outlet for me. A natural way to express myself. And thank you for visiting the site. At least you are giving it a look before making up your mind. --Jim Broede
Do you have anything written that hasn't already been on the Alzheimer's forum? Shooting birds story, heard it. Doris screaming in pain, heard it. What a great thing it was that your dad suicided, heard it. Care givers are whiners, heard it. You don't speak to your sister because she is a smoker and drinks (but you removed that quickly) already heard that one too. You never had friends because you didn't want them, heard it. Your wife was a saint (and I agree she must have been) heard it. Climbing all over Deb's case about things that are none of your business, heard it.
How about some new thoughts on new topics? I think you have just plain ran out of ideas. BORING.
Here's a thought. How about writing about something interesting and not about you. Yes Virginia, there is a world beyond the end of your nose.
Anonymous:
If you've heard it all and if you're bored, why do you keep coming back? --Jim Broede
Maybe they come back to try and burst your head as is swells watching your ticker go up. Funny it didn't move much when all they had to read were your post!!!
So much for the nice Jim, you wouldn't dare put that crap on the Alz site.
and no this isnt' Deb
Why should we risk putting up our reals names here?
Even without names, THE TRUTH remains the same . . . and it hurts, doesn't it Jim?
Ah, the truth shall make you free. I feel free. Like a free spirit. I'm in love. With life. I highly recommend it, folks. Try falling in love with life. It'll make you feel good. And happy. And upbeat. And positive. --Jim Broede
Jim, i hate to tell you this but we do love life. It's its not a fantasy like yours is. A lover, A loner, one that has no one but his computer. An empty shell of a man well hmmmm man might be a pushing it a little bit. A man has balls and well you know what i mean
Maybe you readers have noticed. The comments section of my broodings have been more or less dominated by negative thinkers. And for the most part, they choose to remain anonymous. Can’t blame them for that. I wouldn’t want to attach my name to salacious remarks either. It’s easy to criticize when one hides his/her identity. The point is, some of these folks have axes to grind. And I could show that, I suspect, if they had the courage to use their real names. –Jim Broede
P.S. It's quite possible that 'anonymous' is primarily one person. Wouldn't surprise me.
I know there are at least two different anonymous, as I am one.
BTW, you HAVE called caregivers "whiners", and worse, on the Alzheimer's Board. Lucky for you, they may have been recently removed as a result of the "clean-up". I may have some in my files. I'll check.
You may be playing nicer there, but you are being especially mean here. I guess that is your right, as it is your blog. Really shows who you are. Same with "rosie/aka bunny". Maybe you should share your title with her.
Hey, whiners are whiners. Even I'll whine from time to time. I'm not particularly proud of it. We do have some major whiners on the Alzheimer's message board. And I don't deny their right to whine. All I'm saying is that I've found some good alternatives to whining. By searching for something to be happy about, even in bad times. One can do too much whining. Of course, that's just a personal opinion. Take it or leave it. Whining is a good and often effective way to get sympathy. But I also admire some people who refuse to whine, despite everything. Some of 'em are my heroes and heroines. --Jim Broede
Broede's Broodings said...
.But I also admire some people who refuse to whine, despite everything. Some of 'em are my heroes and heroines. --Jim Broede
August 19, 2007 1:57 PM
Doesn't make them any better of a person. Those that refuse to whine could also be deceptive in the feelings they DO show. Have you ever considered that those you label major whiners
are only whining when they go into the forum??? That they get it out of their system, so to speak, and then are able to carry on??? If so, the forum has served them well, don't you think???
Yes, anonymous, it's all right to whine. It can be a good relief valve. But another alternative is to stop whining. To get over it. I'm only suggesting that the whiners give that alternative strong consideration, too. Hey, I even whine at times. But I try to get over it. I find that works best. For me. Not necessarily for you and others. All depends. I tend to encourage people to stop whining. But it's their decision. I have no control over that. It's a personal thing, you know. --Jim Broede
Let's see if i can reword this, so you understand my question. Have you ever considered that these so called(by you) whiners, whine away on the forum, then go on with the job at hand?? You seem to assume that they are unhappy, or frustrated at all times. Some members feel the need to log on, when they are feeling especially low. They get what they need, then go on.
Why do you feel the need to criticize and/or label them for the few minutes you have contact with them?? Why don't you just ignore these people, like you tell people to ignore you, if you are being inappropriate. Oh, wait, you are never inappropriate, right? Yeah.
I don't see that you have the ability to encourage people to do anything. You do not have that quality, Jim. You should probably just stick with those few friends you do have, and leave the rest alone. You are the epitome of what a support group should NOT include.
What happened to the unscreened comments? It seems when things get a little too tough for you the sceening is back. Sure it is your blog and you can do what you want but either screen or don't sceen. Picking when they are screened is cowardly.
No, it ain't cowardly to screen. It allows for a cooling off period. The vitriol gets a little strong and irrational at times. You know, the language of guttersnipes (and we have a few of 'em here) has to be brought under control. This is a civilized blog. And that requires us to mind our manners. It's much better to be a lady or a gentleman than a guttersnipe. Remember, if we learn to be civil to each other, we'll lift the screening. Some of you were posting garbage. Please, this is not a dump. It's a place for meditation and brooding and camaraderie. And loving and peaceful thoughts. --Jim Broede
Here it's almost the end of August. And we are in our second week of our return to screened comments again. Seems to me it's working out fairly well. I really wish we could go totally unscreened again. And maybe in a little while we'll give it a try again. My biggest concern, of course, is that if I allow the rabble to take over, they'll make a mockery of broede's broodings. I tend to draw some people's wrath. And boy, some of 'em start using abusive language and verbal threats. That ain't nice. I want this blog open to family viewing. So we've got to eliminate some of the distateful comments. Remember, there might be youngsters and Puritans reading this blog. So keep it clean. And nice. --Jim Broede
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