Sunday, April 25, 2010
How do we get around this?
We don't want to talk about certain subjects because they are upsetting. Therefore, we skirt around the truth. We don't face up to reality. I find that especially goes for Alzheimer care-givers. Many of 'em don't know what they are doing. And they resent being told that. They just want to be coddled. In a sense, they want to be treated like a patient. So we create two patients. Rather than a patient and a care-giver. Two sick people. Often, the care-giver needs as much care as the patient. And the question should be, how do we get around this? It almost becomes the blind leading the blind. --Jim Broede
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And in the world of politics, it becomes a case of the stupid leading the stupid. When that happens, we plunge over a cliff. We Americans are notorious for that. We are political idiots. Nintey percent of the time we put idiots in charge. If a non-idiot makes it into a position of responsibillity, it's only by accident. Thank gawd for the occasional accidents. --Jim
You don't "get around it" or try to avoid it. You simply do your best, to help them both. Yes, more times than not, the caregiver needs care, too. And, understanding.
We all need understanding. That's a given. And too many of us stop short of doing our best. --Jim
I suspect we get around a problem by dealing with it. It's too easy to ignore a problem. --Jim
Instead, we just live with the problem. Seems rather stupid, doesn't it? --Jim
I think there's a solution to virtually every problem. --Jim
An mud puddle in your path can be a problem. To "get around" it, you avoid it. Your shoes are clean, but the puddle is still there. You must find a way to get through it, and in doing so, you take care of the puddle, so you don't have to avoid it again.
A good number of caregivers are clouded by emotional pain. If you choose to call them stupid, or babies, or whiners, you have no place giving advice. You are two-faced in dealing with them, by writing so cruelly about them here, then pretending to care, there.
Your only saving grace, is that the content here, is not of interest to those have authority.
It's more a matter of being honest rather than cruel. I suspect it's more cruel to be dishonest. Learn to level. I find that's usually the best course. Face it. Some care-givers are babies. And whiners. Recognize it. That's a giant step toward getting things fixed. --Jim
Part of the problem, by the way, is with people with authority. They don't know how to effectively use their authority. They use it in stupid and unproductive ways. They don't get to the heart of the problem. --Jim
I think it is totally dishonest to pretend to care, then criticize them here.
It seems as though you are just trying to get pats on the back for the marvelous, wonderful caregiver that you think you were. I have never, never seen someone peddle themselves as much as you do.
You are so right, about the authorities not getting to the heart of the problem. If they had, you would have been gone, long ago.
Could be that women have a tendency to skirt around a problem and use consoling and comforting tactics and techniques. And maybe men would rather get directly to the fix. Rather than dilly-dally around. I find that many women, not all, lie to themselves. --Jim
I like mud puddles. I find them aesthetically pleasing. --Jim
I really do care. That's why i criticize them. If I didn't care, I'd ignore them. --Jim
What's wrong with me being good to me? We all should be good to ourselves. It's good for one's mental health. I have good reason to have high self-esteem. --Jim
The authorities need to deal more effectively with close-minded people like you. Try to pry open your mind. See the light for a change. --Jim
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