Knowing he's lived the good life

I know self-destructive people. A care-giver, for instance. Wrapped up in caring for her dementia-riddled father. In the process, she’s flagellating and destroying herself.  Won’t surprise me if she dies before her father. Doesn’t make sense. But still, she’s hell-bent. On doing the ‘right thing.’  Of course, I tell her it’s the ‘wrong thing.’ That she’d be better off  by taking well-deserved breaks. So that she’s around to bury her father. Knowing he lived the good life. That should be sufficient. A real blessing. Doesn't matter the way he died. –Jim Broede